Book club discussion sheet: A Love and Beyond by Dan Sofer
Beware: spoilers below! Review this companion sheet with your friends after reading A Love and Beyond.
Dave learns about two types of soul mates.
- Who is his First Pairing and who his Second Pairing?
- Does this change during the story?
- Do you believe in soul mates?
- Is it possible to "miss" your soul mate?
- Have you met your soul mate/s?
- Does it really matter?
- Is it possible to make someone fall in love with you?
Dave is not eager to compromise on his ideal spouse, although he thinks others have, such as his friend Natalie.
- Why does Dave feel uncomfortable with compromise?
- What events in his past or childhood may have contributed to this?
- Is compromise an acceptable approach to selecting a life partner?
- Is compromise a necessary part of selecting a life partner?
- In what way have you compromised in relationships?
Waiting for a hero
Mandy also had high standards for a potential mate. She spent years waiting for her hero to arrive, a man worthy of her idealized late father.
- How might this have caused Mandy to fall for Dave?
- How does Mandy overcome this at the end of the book?
- Do our relationships with our parents influence our choice of spouse?
- Have you experienced this directly?
Most people Dave knew in Katamon were running away: from their past, from their families, from their future.
- Was Dave also running away? From what?
- And Jay?
- Have you ever run from aspects of your past, family or future?
- How has this influenced your life decisions?
Dave thinks that both he and Jay had found a goal to run toward, only that Jay's target had turned out to be false.
- Is it better to run toward something than to run away? Why?
- What would you do differently if you were to run toward something instead of running away?