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Book club discussion sheet: A Love and Beyond by Dan Sofer

Beware: spoilers below! Review this companion sheet with your friends after reading A Love and Beyond.

Soul mates

Dave learns about two types of soul mates.

  • Who is his First Pairing and who his Second Pairing?
  • Does this change during the story?
  • Do you believe in soul mates?
  • Is it possible to "miss" your soul mate?
  • Have you met your soul mate/s?
  • Does it really matter?
  • Is it possible to make someone fall in love with you?


Dave is not eager to compromise on his ideal spouse, although he thinks others have, such as his friend Natalie.

  • Why does Dave feel uncomfortable with compromise?
  • What events in his past or childhood may have contributed to this?
  • Is compromise an acceptable approach to selecting a life partner?
  • Is compromise a necessary part of selecting a life partner?
  • In what way have you compromised in relationships?

Waiting for a hero

Mandy also had high standards for a potential mate. She spent years waiting for her hero to arrive, a man worthy of her idealized late father.

  • How might this have caused Mandy to fall for Dave?
  • How does Mandy overcome this at the end of the book?
  • Do our relationships with our parents influence our choice of spouse?
  • Have you experienced this directly?

Running away

Most people Dave knew in Katamon were running away: from their past, from their families, from their future.

  • Was Dave also running away? From what?
  • And Jay?
  • Have you ever run from aspects of your past, family or future?
  • How has this influenced your life decisions?

Running toward

Dave thinks that both he and Jay had found a goal to run toward, only that Jay's target had turned out to be false.

  • Is it better to run toward something than to run away? Why?
  • What would you do differently if you were to run toward something instead of running away?
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